I’m a beaurocrat , and I am efficient in my work place. But male colleagues always ignore me, or try to hide the real situation or doing my work without my concern.
They do not give recognition of my work. They always try to remain in the mainstream.
I think these are idiotic and stupid. How can I teach them gently? Their attitude seems to me uncivilised though they are educated in society.
Also, they are always talking about supporting equity and gender balance when they are in meetings.
So I cannot tolerate such conditions. Please give me your valuable suggestion.
You ask in your subject line why are women being underestimated
This is a global problem that has not improved in the last 20 years, despite legislation.
In a recent UK survey by Business Environment, 1500 female office workers were interviewed about this subject ,and more than 25% said they had experienced some form of gender discrimination at work . So sexism does remain a problem in the workplace
Sheryl Sandberg, Chief executive of Facebook, recently said that in her experience “for women, success and likeability are negatively correlated. As a woman gets more successful and more powerful, she is less liked”.
One option is to take the issue to your management, but be prepared for the backlash!!
Employers are legally responsible for preventing discrimination, both directly by the company, and also by staff. So, they are accountable for the actions of employees unless they can prove they have done everything reasonable within their power to prevent discriminatory behaviour.
They should be creating an appropriate culture, establishing the right core values, communicating policies, staff should be trained to spot discrimination and take appropriate steps to eliminate it.
If your company has this sort of approach, you could have an informal meeting with your line manager and express your concerns. if this is not effective you could make a formal complaint using the grievance procedure. You should not be victimized for making a complaint, as this itself would be discriminatory.
But in my experience to go down this route would exacerbate the problem.
Far better to try to establish a good working relationship without resort to litigation and formal complaints.
So, my advice would be not to make a formal complaint, but to carry on doing what you are go doing—being a credit to your gender!
Lead by example, be professional at all times, above reproach, admired for your work.
But perhaps begin to make some low-key comments, such as
“Really? that comment is a bit sexist “
“Would you say that if I was a man”
“I find that offensive “
“Teaching them gently”, as you say in your letter. Lead by example
They may eventually begin to see how you feel, and may even modify their behaviour !
Maybe discuss this with your line manager first in the informal way described above, and warn them you are going to make comments, in the hope of altering your colleague’s behaviour . Ask for their support in this to avoid any future backlash.